Anyone who has been in a relationship or watched any of the Bachelor franchises knows that deciding when to say “I love you” to a partner is a Big Deal.
There’s a lot to worry about: the timing, the gravity, the phrasing, and of course, the reciprocation. For some people, it comes out fast, and others might go their entire relationship without saying it.
For example, Hannah* has been in a monogamous relationship for a little over a year, but has made a conscious effort not to say “I love you.”
Her partner claimed that he had said it “too many times” in past relationships, and didn’t want to rush into it with her.
This is a surprisingly common occurrence in relationships, and even though you don’t say those three words doesn’t mean that you’re not in love, or something like it.